Calum McSwiggan

Teenagers Do It Better

In Gay, Love on April 30, 2012 at 1:11 pm

‘We live in a world built on promises, constructed by liars’

– Unknown

The obsession with youth within our society is amplified threefold within the gay community- just taking a sweeping look at groups of older men’s grindr profiles shows this; the majority all seem to be looking for the same thing: much younger guys. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with this, but I’ve begun to notice this obsession resulting in a tendency to cover up our true identity.

As long as the internet has been around there has always been a publically voiced worry that it will be used as a forum to seduce young teenage boys and girls. This was something I was always aware could happen, but never really expected to witness it.

A couple of months ago I was added on facebook by a good-looking teenager who promptly flirtatiously messaged me, I flirted back precariously and it wasn’t long until I agreed to go on a date with him in his hometown. It was only on the morning of the day I was supposed to have met him when my suspicions began to flare up. Something didn’t seem quite right, yet I couldn’t put my finger on it. I googled Teenagers Do It Better- which was written on one of his t-shirts- and voila, within seconds I discovered the rightful owner of the images: a graphic design blogger (pictured above) – I quickly contacted him and he thankfully had the fake profile removed.

You may be sat thinking I’m not stupid enough to be conned like that but these profiles can be pretty convincing. They build up a web of lies that all support each other’s validity- fake friends, fake family, even a fake job. Besides, when we are flattered by an attractive person, our brain wants us to believe it’s real, so we allow ourselves to be taken in.

I don’t know whether this person’s intent had been malicious or not, but I do not want to know what would have happened if I had gone along on the date, a quick Google search reports several disturbing cases. What really concerns me is that he had teenagers as young as fourteen added too.

I’m not entirely innocent in all of this, though, when I was sixteen me and my ex-boyfriend played a prank on our friend whereby we used a German boy’s MySpace photos to create a fake identity- the whole thing backfired when my friend confessed to me that he felt like he was falling in love with him. It was a stupid and heartless thing to do, and five short years later I got my comeuppance.

Karma, it’s a bitch.

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